So in 21 years of my life here on this beautiful planet, I've hung out with a lot of different people. From "the geeks" to the "cool kids", from "the princesses" to the "gangsta chicks" and I've never really defined myself as part of one group or the other. Because I find the meaning of groups stupid and old.
I've hung out with such different types of people for one reason. Because I've never let society define the people around me. I've never let anyone tell me who someone else is. I always wanted to find it out for myself. If someone's a good person or a bad one, if they bring joy to my life or pain... Those are the things that matter at the end of the day. Not stupid labels that people put on other people, because they think it's cool.
After all who are you to decide if someone's "cool" or not? If someone's "worthy" or not? People like that are the ones who are not cool and I refuse to be one of them. I refuse society and its stupid labels.
Usually, the people who are labeled as "cool" are the most selfish and self-absorbed people I have ever met. And the worst part is that it's so easy to become one of them. It's so easy to start thinking of yourself as something more as well. Fortunately, I've never allowed myself to fall under that kind of influence. I suppose I've always had it clear from a young age that we're all human and we're all cool in our own, special way.
At the end of the day, I've hung out with people who were really smart and were seen as "geeks" and "uncool". Well, guess what? Those people turned out to be one of the coolest and funniest people I've ever gotten to meet and I'd never trade them for anything or anyone in the whole wide world.
Of course, there have also been a lot of times when I should have listened to my loved ones when they told me someone was bad for me. But I never did. And I don't regret it. You know why? Because I got to learn it by myself with my own two eyes. And now I know because I was brave enough to try.
Lately, I've been meeting a lot of "cool people" who spend a lot of time with other "cool people". What they all have in common are amazing Instagram pics of themselves spending time with each other and looking amazing. And what they also have in common is that they're actually really unhappy, because it can get really stressful to pretend every single day of your life just to be accepted in a society that's already doomed.
That's why we should all try to surround ourselves with people who make us laugh, make us happy and push us to be the best version of ourselves. That's all that matters at the end of the day and not how someone is perceived or accepted by society.
You'd think that in the 21st century we'd all have figured out by now that putting people into groups and deciding who's in and who's out is super unhealthy and utterly wrong. But no, it seems that with every year we're getting worse and worse, all thanks to social media and it's unrealistic image of reality. So the only advice I have left to give here is to wait and see for yourself how someone's like. Try to get to know people before you label them as something they're not. You might end up meeting the best people possible. You might end up actually real-world happy. And not just Instagram happy.
With love,
Nina
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