I’ve never really thought of myself as a greedy person. Sure, there are certain things in life I want to achieve. A standard of life I aspire to reach. An ambitious mind always seeks more out of life. But I’ll never understand greedy people who compare themselves, their lives, their , etc. to others. And based on that comparison they want ''something more'' out of life, while not knowing what that ''something more'' they're talking about, even is.
“Look at her, her dress is prettier. Look at him, his house is bigger. Look at them, their grass is greener.” So much comparison, competition, greed... Simply because they want the things they don’t/can’t have, instead of just being happy with what they already have. Or maybe just feeling good about someone else’s achievements for a change?
People say I’m a good listener. And I love that compliment. I think it’s one of the best you can get in a society where everyone wants to talk, and rarely anyone wants to listen. But half of the time I listen to people complaining. Though don’t get me wrong. I complain too. A lot. But I just don’t complain about others. About what others have that I don’t. About others looking a certain way- a way that I don’t. If I complain about other people it's when I reach a point where I just want to scream at the top of my lungs how everyone should just stop comparing themselves to others and just do their own thing, in their own pace, at their own time. That’s it.
If Ana has the shoes you don’t it doesn’t mean your shoes are any uglier, they’re just different. It’s all a matter of perspective. Maybe I prefer BMWs, while he prefers Audis? Can I honestly say that Audis are awfully ugly cars and BMWs are out of this world amazing? No, I can’t, because that’s my personal taste. And what if he ends up having a BMW and I don’t? Does that make my life really more miserable? Or less successful? No, it doesn’t. You know why? Because it’s a damn car. It’s not my mother, or father or the people I love. And you see? That’s the word, the ideal that matters at the end. Love. That’s what we’d be lost without.
We blame the society we live in for everything being measured by the things we have, by the things we do, by the clothes we wear... But we often forget that we are society. We are the ones who determine what matters and what doesn’t. We're the ones that buy the newest, shiniest iPhones as soon as they get out and we're the ones who are depressed if others end up having something that we don't. It starts at a young age. We want the toys others have, the things their parents buy them. We're never happy with the ones we already have. And that habit doesn't end in childhood. It follows us our whole life. So it’s our own choices that sculpture the world we live in and as long as we’re making the wrong ones, nothing will change no matter how hard we complain or compare.
Stop looking for that ''something more'' simply based on other individual’s lives. Realize that that “more” you’re dreaming of has been in front of you all along. Otherwise, you’ll end up losing that too. And when that happens, you’ll realize how that ''something more'' was actually waiting for you, while you were searching for something less.
With love, Nina
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